Help Others To Help Yourself

“Even when you are hurting, someone is needing you more than you need your pain and so you give of yourself.” – Jen Lynn Arnold I am sitting at my computer tonight, tears streaming down my face, feeling like a total sham. Here I am telling you to be brave, like it is an easy…

Live And Love Your Brave Life

“There is a surrendering to your story and then a knowing that you don’t have to stay in your story.”  –  Colette Baron Reid Your Brave Life is a philosophy that has I have come to live by and I hope you will too. When we think of bravery we often think of grandiose things…

Grief: Overcoming the obstacles of hypervigilance and trust issues

“After a traumatic experience, the human system of self-preservation seems to go onto permanent alert, as if the danger might return at any moment.” – Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery When it turns out that nothing is what it seemed to be. When the “It could never happen to me.” happens to you, it…

Grief & The Blame Game

“You can’t place blame in hindsight like that, when you didn’t know, you couldn’t know and we may never know why it happened…” ~ Cy Zentzis, Childhood Cancer Angel, 2015 Any time we experience something negative or challenging we all have a tenancy to want to blame someone for it. If they hadn’t done it…

Why Your Past Hobbies Help Heal Your Grief

“I’m just someone who likes cooking and for whom sharing food is a form of expression.”  ~ Maya Angelou Long before I knew I would be facing this thing called grief, I liked to cook. I was never the type to follow a recipe, rather I was an experimental chef.  Living on a budget with…

Surviving Seasons Of Grief, Holidays & Anniversaries

“The feat of surviving is directly related to the capacity of the survivor.” ~ Claire Cameron I feel like I have a hangover.  My body aches, I am slightly bitchy, exhausted and ready for recovery. The past three and a half months have once again taken their toll and I am grateful that I once…

Goals And Grieving: Why They Should Coexist

“What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.” – Henry David Thoreau So where have I been for the last few weeks?  I was set on a task to reach a goal that I have been working towards for several years. And by several, I…

Grief Brain: Grief Affects Memory & Thinking

“My brain tends to take the scenic route. Things come to the forefront of my mind sooner or later, it just takes time.” –   Richelle E. Goodrich When my son started chemotherapy for Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia we were warned of the many side effects that he would face.  Some were to be expected…like weakness…

6 Things To Do When The Bereaved Talk About Their Loss

“Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the o’er-fraught heart and bids it break. ” – William Shakespeare I talk about my son every day.  He is still a major part of my life and identity. To not mention him would feel unnatural and stifled.  A concerted effort would have to be made…