Help Others To Help Yourself

“Even when you are hurting, someone is needing you more than you need your pain and so you give of yourself.” – Jen Lynn Arnold I am sitting at my computer tonight, tears streaming down my face, feeling like a total sham. Here I am telling you to be brave, like it is an easy…

Procrastination, we meet again.

“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” – Arthur Ashe You know that song with the line, “The waiting is the hardest part.”?  While I find that waiting can be tough, it is the starting that can be tougher still.  Whether it is lack of motivation or not knowing where…

Beauty From Ashes

“I am not where I need to be, but, thank God, I am not where I used to be.” ― Joyce Meyer, Beauty for Ashes: Receiving Emotional Healing There is something so hauntingly beautiful about these burnt trees in Glacier National Park, Montana. To see the new growth engulf them in green new life. Yet…

Why does it have to be so complicated?

“Give sorrow words. The grief that does not speak whispers the o’er-fraught heart, and bids it break.” – William Shakespeare I don’t claim to be a grief specialist but one thing that you will find consistently in my writing and advice is to not go it alone and how damaging grieving can be if you…

Grief: Overcoming the obstacles of hypervigilance and trust issues

“After a traumatic experience, the human system of self-preservation seems to go onto permanent alert, as if the danger might return at any moment.” – Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery When it turns out that nothing is what it seemed to be. When the “It could never happen to me.” happens to you, it…

Grieve One Day At A Time

“A family will never get over losing their loved ones. It doesn’t matter how long ago or how old the loved one was or how they died. The family lives with this pain every moment of their remaining lives.” – Narin Grewal It takes time and practice to get good at living with loss. It…

Open Letter From Grieving Parents

“There is no friendship, no love, like that of the parent for the child. ” – Henry Ward Beecher Dear Friends and Family, Acquaintances and Strangers, Neighbors and Co-workers; For whatever reason, our child came up in conversation today. Please know that we desperately want and need to talk about our child. We know that…

Mother’s Day: In The Arms Of Grief; Open Letter To My Mom

“Mother’s arms are made of tenderness and children sleep soundly in them.” ~ Victor Hugo Dear Mom, There are so many things I could say, including several I am sorry’s. Being a mother is hard work. Hindsight being the what it is, I realize now just how much you gave, how strong you were and…

Grief & The Blame Game

“You can’t place blame in hindsight like that, when you didn’t know, you couldn’t know and we may never know why it happened…” ~ Cy Zentzis, Childhood Cancer Angel, 2015 Any time we experience something negative or challenging we all have a tenancy to want to blame someone for it. If they hadn’t done it…