Grieve One Day At A Time

“A family will never get over losing their loved ones. It doesn’t matter how long ago or how old the loved one was or how they died. The family lives with this pain every moment of their remaining lives.” – Narin Grewal It takes time and practice to get good at living with loss. It…

Grief & The Blame Game

“You can’t place blame in hindsight like that, when you didn’t know, you couldn’t know and we may never know why it happened…” ~ Cy Zentzis, Childhood Cancer Angel, 2015 Any time we experience something negative or challenging we all have a tenancy to want to blame someone for it. If they hadn’t done it…

Why Your Past Hobbies Help Heal Your Grief

“I’m just someone who likes cooking and for whom sharing food is a form of expression.”  ~ Maya Angelou Long before I knew I would be facing this thing called grief, I liked to cook. I was never the type to follow a recipe, rather I was an experimental chef.  Living on a budget with…

Surviving Seasons Of Grief, Holidays & Anniversaries

“The feat of surviving is directly related to the capacity of the survivor.” ~ Claire Cameron I feel like I have a hangover.  My body aches, I am slightly bitchy, exhausted and ready for recovery. The past three and a half months have once again taken their toll and I am grateful that I once…

Goals And Grieving: Why They Should Coexist

“What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals.” – Henry David Thoreau So where have I been for the last few weeks?  I was set on a task to reach a goal that I have been working towards for several years. And by several, I…

Grief Brain: Grief Affects Memory & Thinking

“My brain tends to take the scenic route. Things come to the forefront of my mind sooner or later, it just takes time.” –   Richelle E. Goodrich When my son started chemotherapy for Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia we were warned of the many side effects that he would face.  Some were to be expected…like weakness…

6 Things To Do When The Bereaved Talk About Their Loss

“Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak whispers the o’er-fraught heart and bids it break. ” – William Shakespeare I talk about my son every day.  He is still a major part of my life and identity. To not mention him would feel unnatural and stifled.  A concerted effort would have to be made…

Oil & Vinegar

“So it’s true, when all is said and done, grief is the price we pay for love.” – E.A. Bucchianeri, Brushstrokes of a Gadfly I am living my life moment by moment, event by event and holiday by holiday.  It seems everyone of them serve as a reminder that Tucker is not here.  His presence is greatly…

Christmas Still Comes

“Christmas, children, is not a date. It is a state of mind.” – Mary Ellen Chase Sometimes March 26th comes and goes and I do not notice for several days that I missed it. This was the day my whole life changed and there are years that it has gone unnoticed.  Sometimes the 16th passes…