I found this book to be an easy, captivating read. We all have difficulties in life, it is a matter of how we choose to respond to those challenges. There are many nuggets of thought provoking wisdom. The author incorporates a gentle thought towards spirituality. This was refreshing as it didn’t feel like it was being forced. It is a book about love and loss, hope and truth. I loved how the plot went back and forth between time as well as incorporated an elderly wisdom that we all can glean from.
Sharla Sanders – Founder/Director of Momcology Retreats
Appreciate the article. Hopefully the days leading up the the first anniversary of my son’s death will be worse than the actual day. Making an exit plan, great advice. You have a wonderful website. – Kathleen
I just want to say thank you—my father recently passed away after going through many different health issues, and one of the biggest things that have kept me sane is people like you. As bad as it was, and is, concerning my father, it could have been SO much worse, and knowing that there are people like you out there who go through such terrible things and come out strong reminds me that I’ll be all right as well.
Wow, Jen. You absolutely have way with words. I am humbled by your story. I sincerely believe we were put on earth to help each other. To share our experiences with others to help them make it through just as we have or are trying to do. I can tell just by what I read that you are a very strong woman with a lot to offer. You are an absolute blessing for sharing your story. I know it’ll help someone someday. It helped me.
Thank you for posting – we lost my wife’s daugther, my stepdaughter, back in May, almost a year ago. And it is incredible how brain function just takes a nosedive. When the waves of grief come, you just have to sit there and wait for them to happen. When it happens at work, I have to take a break, or if I can’t, move to something very simple, like organizing files. It seems like dealing with grief is so taxing on the ability of the brain to process, it’s like a computer with too many programs open. Just have to keep in mind that they pass, the grief comes and goes and over time I feel that I’m learning to recognize and make space in my life for the waves to come in. Just observe them as they hit, and then observe them as they retreat. Like watching a storm over the ocean.
I am no chef but totally get that feeding other love thing. I resumed family meals to help us all reconnect and heal. (God showed me to do this ) we enjoy our time and often talk of Rachel (now living in heaven) while in fellowship. …it was good to see your post/blog. I was thinking what to fix for tomorrow dinner when I read it.
Exactly. You should write a book!
Jeanette Design Studio
Awesome post. Just awesome. Thank you Jen.
Someone shared your story on FB and I am sitting here in tears. Both of sadness and amazement in this little boy. Your amazing son who has led an amazing life. When I read his choice, I was touched. I said to myself, “Who is this boy?” He has taught me in this brief moment how important life is. And in his short life, he knows this. My condolences for losing your little boy. May you forever have his love and memories in your heart. Please know that he has touched my heart and taught a stranger the joy of life. ((HUGS))
Maria Nolan, Gaithersburg, MD
Thank you for your honesty, Jen. I know it will help others.
Pastor Ryan Nichols
I LOVE this book! Wonderfully written!
Very good read. It kept me interested. Liked the details in the writing. I would read another book by the author.
“It’s beautiful. The photo choices, the easy to read text, the space for journaling thoughts – it looks really lovely.” – Kathy Griffith, TAPS Media Relations Manager Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors
“I know this will be helpful to the families we continue to care for in the Bridges Program.” – Kathy Perko, M.S., P.N.P., Program Director of the Bridges Palliative Care Program at Doernbecher Children’s Hospital.
“Loss can be so debilitating, as you experienced, and it is great that you decided to journal and put down in words steps to help others. I appreciate you including SAVE in the resources section of the book. Hopefully for those reading your book who are grieving the loss of a loved one to suicide will be able to find us for additional help.” – Daniel J. Reidenberg, PsyD Executive Director – Suicide Awareness Voices of Education, Managing Director – National Council for Suicide Prevention, US Representative – International Association for Suicide Prevention
“Thank you for including our services in your resources section. We’re always looking for good resources, and I have so much respect for people who find ways to help others after their own tragedies, as you have done here following Tucker’s death.” – Donna L. Schuurman, Ed.D., FT Senior Director of Advocacy & Training, Executive Director Emeritus, The Dougy Center for Grieving Children & Families
“I think that it is very heartwarming and looks to be a very powerful opus. Thank you for all that you do.” – Bill H. Chang, MD, PhD, Associate Professor of Pediatrics, Co-Director of Leukemia and Lymphoma Program, Pediatric Hematology and Oncology, Pediatric Blood and Marrow Transplant Program , Member of Knight Cancer Institute, Doernbecher Children’s Hospital & Oregon Health & Science University